I thought I would share for parents who may appreciate some or all of these suggestions. I don’t tell my sons there are “bad” birth control methods. I do tell them what “effective” means and that two forms are better than one, and one is better than none.
We support non-traditional expressions of self and sexuality in my family. So many of these topics have been talked about over the years.
I started talking about sex and relationships with my sons as soon as they brought it up, which was around 5-7 years old. I kept it age-appropriate, and we have had a progression of discussions not just one lecture over and over.
I also supply lube and condoms without counting and just keep them current and full up. I suggested masturbating with them to get used to the feeling. It increases the likelihood that they will USE them.
In the early 1980s, I helped care for people dying from HIV/AIDS in my community. I LOVE my kids. I would prefer them alive and doing things I don’t *like* over dead.
I told them that we do not need any more men of color not finishing school and raising babies while they are teenagers.
Notice: Both of my sons have now finished (K-12) school. I have no grand kids. No STD or pregnancy scares, that I know of.
I gave them access to their doctors in our health plan (as well as their own medical cards), and information on Planned Parenthood and similar clinics. I promote testing. I get and give them pamphlets on STDs, teen pregnancy, and teen sexuality. I do not ask questions outside of them bringing up things and me asking for more of their thoughts. I listen without judgments if/when they need to talk.
They do talk to me about this stuff. I consider that a good thing.